To issue a challenge; to proclaim one’s candidacy
Remember those times when at school, work or elsewhere a volunteer has been needed, someone to step forward and to take on the project and get it done. There would have been times when you did not volunteer because the task repelled in some way, and there would have been those times when what would be need from you would be either something you had little experience of and/or which was outside of your comfort zone.
What might of happened had you stepped forward back then! Would you of impressed the boss who would of seen you team playing by taking on the rough. Would others of seen you as someone with courage, someone who will take on new challenges in order to get a task done. Would you today be in a better role and position than you are in now?
So next time a volunteer is needed here are a few questions to bear in mind before deciding whether or not to throw you hat in to that ring.
- 1) What’s the cost to you of volunteering (and not)?
- 2) What’s the potential benefit to you in the long term of stepping in?
- 3) What’s stopping you from volunteering? And how can these things be overcome.
‘Pie in the sky’ – heavenly rewards; an unrealistic dream, ambition or goal.
Have you noticed goals and dreams have had to be let go of or dismissed because they seem unrealistic. It does not seem possible that you/they will be able to achieve and fulfil that ambition. The idea seems so vast and unobtainable, that in the face of criticism, the best thing to do is to let it go.
And you or someone you know may well have such a goal, an aspiration right now that is ‘pie in the sky’ and have commented or had said thoughts. Is this goal, this thing to achieve unachievable or is it the current plan or lack of plan the root cause of the problem?
So as you think of that pie in the sky idea, a few questions for you to ponder;-
1) Have similar goals been achieved by you or someone else previously?
There’s a big difference between being impossible and not yet knowing how you are going to achieve the outcome you are looking for.
2) Are you (or they) criticising the ‘goal’ or the ‘plan’?
One of the rules of the Disney NLP planning process is to criticise the plan and ONLY the plan. By criticising the goal, you are making a personal criticism of the dreamer, the person who sets the goal whether that is you yourself or someone else. By criticising the plan and only the plan, you provide opportunity to develop the strategy for delivering that result.
3) Is the goal still ‘pie in the sky’ or does your plan need a review?
A change in your plan may be all that is needed to turn the unachievable into achievable.
“Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will not kill me”
That’s a mantra that many of us were encouraged to say as children to tell bullies that their words would not hurt us.
Words do have a powerful impact on what we do and do not do irrespective of age. And the words we use in the conversations we have with ourselves in our heads effect the actions and decisions that we take. These words can either motivate us to do something or stop us from taking action. Understanding which parts of us these words are coming from and what they want for us is another matter.
Are your words being helpful or are they hindering you at the moment!
If they are hindering you, what do each of those parts of you driving those words want for you? And what motivating words could you use that honour the needs and wants of that part?
Just as going down the gym and having a personal trainer can help you with your fitness regime. Having a life coach is like having a personal trainer for your mind, improving the fitness of your thinking in all areas of your life
Redundancy is never easy. Having been through the process twice myself I know that each roller coast ride is different. As time has moved on, the pain has gone away as I moved into the following chapters in my life.
If you have recently been made redundant or are in the process of losing your job have a read of this. Life Coach Article on Redundancy
Nobody knows your life as well as you do.
Nobody knows what is important to you, more than you do.
Nobody has your level of expertise and ingenuity.
Nobody will come up with strategies that are as compelling to follow as the ones you come up with yourself.
You are the expert in your life. You have the capability to advise yourself and find the solutions and strategies that you are motivated to follow for greater success in the future. Coaching can help you to access the untapped expertise within yourself.